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When to get through it, and when to be in it

When to get through it, and when to be in it

We all have experiences we simply need to “get through.” Not “move through with ease” or “be deeply present in.” I’m talking about the times when we need to just get through whatever life throws at us and try to come out on the other side intact. A few experiences I’ve needed to “just get… Continue Reading

Skipping Lunch and Creating Balance

Skipping Lunch and Creating Balance

Today I skipped lunch. To be fair, I ate what my friends and I call a “teacher lunch” – an apple and some almonds around 10:45, and then pretzels and hummus around 3. So it wasn’t like I ate nothing between breakfast and dinner. Still, at no point did I sit and eat food that… Continue Reading

The Natural Caregiver Myth (Part I)

The Natural Caregiver Myth (Part I)

When I became a mom, my partner and I had a plan. I was going back to the career I loved and worked hard for when my son was six months old. He would leave his paying job and become a stay-at-home parent. When we made this plan, I really, truly thought that it would… Continue Reading

Be an Example, Not a Model

Be an Example, Not a Model

You can be an example without being a model. In fact, being an example is usually better. To be clear, when I say “model” here, I mean a person who shows us a way of doing things that is supposed to be the “best” way. An “example,” is a person who is showing us one… Continue Reading

Resist Shame, Resist the Patriarchy

Resist Shame, Resist the Patriarchy

In a previous post I wrote how mom-guilt is usually thinly veiled mom-shame. Mom-shame is the intense feeling of not being a good enough mom because of being personally unworthy (as opposed to simply making mistakes, which is human nature). Guilt happens when we feel bad about behavior. Shame happens when we question our own… Continue Reading

The Only Person You Control is Yourself

The Only Person You Control is Yourself

Going from being childless to being a parent is no joke. Life changes dramatically in those first few weeks. You don’t sleep. You’re facing a whole new life and identity. And you’re dealing with lots of disgusting diapers. The biggest shift of all is that you are now responsible for a tiny little life. And,… Continue Reading

Forget Mom Guilt. Let’s Talk About Mom Shame

Forget Mom Guilt. Let’s Talk About Mom Shame

#Momguilt. It’s common enough to have its own hashtag. But before there were hashtags, “mom guilt” was still a thing. My mom felt it. My grandmother did too. Even if the issues we felt guilt or shame around change with each generation, that nagging feeling of not doing “it” right and not being good enough… Continue Reading

Guest Post: Practicing “Good Enough Parenting”

Guest Post: Practicing “Good Enough Parenting”

S.B. Castaneda is a new mom with a 9 to 5 and a side hustle. When she isn’t spending time with her family, she enjoys writing for her mom blog Baby Brain. Check out her recent article on the best jogging strollers. You can also find her on Twitter or Pinterest. How This New Mom… Continue Reading

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